Seeing the Tool Behind the Pain
Learn how to get okay with not being seen.
That’s the idea that came with the pain this time.
Did you know that every time the world hands you a problem, it also hands you a tool to learn with?
As within, so without.
We’ve all heard that before, but let’s look at it in this context. The problem shows up on the outside (without)—and instantly, something inside you reflects it (within). At the same time, the Universe hands you an internal tool. Something to help you learn from and work with the pain or pattern you’re now carrying on the inside.
Can you see the tool?
Lately, I’ve been sitting with the idea of being seen—especially in relation to social media and my writing. And as I’ve slowly turned that question over, it’s shown me something. A tool. A way of navigating the external pain.
How do I learn to be okay with not being seen? How do I actually embody that?
I could get mad. I could let it hurt me. I could decide to be lonely. I could stab myself with it—decide this must mean I’m meant to be alone forever.
Or not.
I can choose to see it as a tool. A mirror. A guide. A way to heal instead of harm myself. A way to stop holding the pain like it’s proof of something.
The pain itself isn’t necessarily helpful. But the tools that come with the pain are invaluable. The hard part is switching your focus from the pain to the tool.
We’re taught to let the pain overwhelm us. And I hate to say it, but pain in our world right now is a little dramatic. It’s a little extra—and not in a good way. We’ve learned to wear pain like a badge of honor. So many people flashing their pain all over the Internet, comparing it, deciding who’s in more pain, and then competing for the spotlight a viral post provides.
Pain was never meant to go viral.
Meanwhile, the tool sits there, quietly waiting for somebody to notice it, hoping that the person that finds it will use it as intended and won’t just stab themselves with it instead.
The pain will always come with an internal tool that you can use to heal. Your ability to see it and use it as intended is up to you. Nobody can do it for you. You have to be willing to heal yourself.
Love to all.
Della